Is He Ready to be a Husband? Guest Post by Michelle Stimpson

Every once in a while I’m blessed to meet what I like to call a kindred spirit. This person is typically someone I’ve just met who already feels like a long time friend. Someone I immediately feel at home with and who generally is a lot wiser than me. I LOVE when this happens! So, I’m pleased to have one of my kindred spirits, author Michelle Stimpson, share this blog space today. I hope the following post spoke to you the way it speaks to me!


Is He Ready to be a Husband?

michelleIn ministry to women, I’ve been blessed to meet several Christian sisters who profess to know Him and be actively seeking God but are still unsure of what a godly man looks like. Let me be clear: No man is perfect. Some men are wolves in sheep’s clothing, but I believe that many more just need an opportunity to grow as people and in their relationship with God before they are ready to marry.

To that effect, let me share advice that MANY women have shared with me—clues that he is either is not a godly man or is not ready to be married to one of God’s precious daughters at this time. While we are not in a position to judge a person’s salvation, it is possible to see the “fruit” of the Spirit as clearly outlined in Galatians 5:22. Each of the characteristics below could easily be classified under one or more of these traits.

Let me forewarn you: The tone of the advice is strong because the women who shared the tidbits were adamant in their discussions. Here goes!

1. How does he talk about people? Does he routinely discuss how silly other people are? Does he speak ill of family members and people who are supposed to be his friends? Is he the only smart person in his version of what happened at work? The love of God is manifest in our love for one another. A man who makes a habit of belittling and fault-finding has not yet realized God’s love for him and is still full of pride. Eventually, his accusatory finger will turn to point at you.

Contrarily, a man who speaks life and goodness into and about others will readily prophesy God’s goodness over every aspect of your marriage. When tough times come, he will speak edifying words that build you both!

2. Does he routinely lead you or tempt you into sin? A man who is sincerely concerned about your spiritual well-being does not want you to compromise your faith. The love of God does not lead us away from His desires for us. If he’s leading you wrong now, what makes you think he’ll lead you right later?

A husband who loves the Lord seeks to obey Him (John 14:23-24). A wife who trusts in the Lord alongside a husband who honors God can rest in the fact that even when she’s not 100% sure of where her husband is leading, she can trust that God will honor her husband’s decision and her obedience.

3. Does he initiate conversations about God? Jesus? The Holy Spirit? It would be impossible for your man to know God intimately and not mention Him in conversation with someone else he’s bringing into the inner circle (i.e. you). When the old man dies, the new life is lived through Christ (Galatians 2:20). If the “new man” is silent, this is a red flag.

Why is this important? The man is the head of the household (1 Corinthians 11:3). A man who actively seeks God for guidance will find it (Matthew 7:7). What a blessing it will be to know that your husband is consulting the Master about your marriage!

4. If he has children already, is he an active part of their lives? A man who does not support his children in every way possible has a character problem; he is not exhibiting the character of God. Such a man is not ready to be married to you or be the godly father you want for your children. Also, don’t fall for the, “I don’t have a lot of time,” excuse, either. If he’s had enough free time to pursue you, he had time to try to keep in touch with his children.

If it’s “in him” to do right by his children and remain respectful to the mother of his child(ren), he understands what it means to hold up his end of an obligation.

5. Could he support you both financially? A man isn’t ready to be married until he can adequately provide for a wife and possible children. Even if you two decide on a two-income household, the question is still could he provide the basic needs if necessary? God didn’t give Adam a wife until he had a job. Who are we to think we know better than Him?

Do your future husband a favor: Allow him the time he needs to develop the confidence of knowing that he is capable of being a good provider. An able-bodied man who knows he can support his wife and children by the grace of God has fulfilled one of his God-given roles (1 Timothy 5:8). My personal advice to newly married couples is to try not to create a lifestyle that requires two full-time salaries.

6. How’s his temper? Does he call you outside of your name, curse at you or become almost scary when he’s angry? Is he easily agitated and impatient? These are major red flags. A man whose temper flares easily has a minefield of underlying issues that he needs to deal with before he can even begin to love you like Christ loved the church. He’s not ready to marry anyone, let alone you.

A patient husband can bring peace into an otherwise volatile situation. His calm presence alone de-escalates disagreements and keeps drama out from under your roof. Whether he is patiently teaching your son to tie his shoes or choosing to make a funny comment instead of arguing, his even temper will bless your household for years to come.

7. What about joy? Is he grumpy? Does he have a good time in the company of friends or family? Does he enjoy a hobby or is he still searching for what makes him happy? A man who is trying to find out what makes him “happy” is not ready to be married because he has yet to realize the Fountain of Life within him. Beware especially if he says you are the source of joy in his life. This is a problem because the joy of the Lord is supposed to be his strength, not you (Nehemiah 8:10). Resist the urge to be his all-in-all. It may be flattering, but you don’t want that burden for life.

A man who is filled with the joy of the Lord may not walk around whistling and smiling all the time, but he can face each day with hope, knowing that Christ will prevail regardless of circumstances. He can roll with the punches in your marriage because his joy is secure in God.

8. Does he forgive easily? Does he hold a grudge against his father? Does he bring up offenses from the past that he should have released a long time ago? Does he think everyone is out to get him? Is he the type who cuts people off forever when they get on his bad side? Forgiveness is a major factor in any successful marriage. Spouses have to forgive one another on a regular basis and be able to give one another the benefit of the doubt. If the man you’re dating does not know how to forgive, he will build up resentment toward the imperfect, “real” version of you in a short while. He is not ready until he has received forgiveness and gives it freely.

A husband who forgives easily will be your treasure from now until death do you part. After all, he has to put up with you, right? Because he understands how easily Christ forgave him, your husband shares that same heart for you. He will speak the truth in love in an effort to restore whatever the enemy is trying to steal from your marriage.

9. How well does he communicate? Men and women communicate differently, so this can be a tricky one. But here’s a pretty good test: When you two have a disagreement, is he able to patiently listen to your point of view and is he eager to resolve problems—or at least agree to disagree? A spouse who don’t communicate often has unspoken expectations that you could never fulfill and/or harbors undeclared resentments that you won’t even have the opportunity to rectify until he explodes in destructive communication.

The good news here is that, with effort, your husband can learn how to communicate the goodness in his heart. A wife who knows what her husband desires (and vice versa) is in a much better position to give him what he wants.

10. Is he generous? Is he a giving person or does he have an “every man for himself” mentality? The Bible tells us that God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son (John 3:16). A generous, unselfish man who mimics his Heavenly Father will also be a giver. Does he faithfully support the ministries that feed believers through financial means? Generosity can even be see in little things like leaving tips at a meal or a quick donation to kids selling cookies outside the grocery store. Also, consider how he spends his time. Is it all used up on him and his interests/endeavors or does he share his time with those who are in no position to reward him? (Spending time with you doesn’t count because that’s mutually beneficial.) A selfish man is not ready to put his wife and family above his own desires.

A generous heart goes a long way in a marriage! A generous person approaches finances, time, goals, and even sex with a considerate mindset. Quite frankly, wives tell me that it’s just flat-out easier to lavish love on a man who so freely gives of himself.

The bottom line for a godly husband can be summed up in this question: Does he resemble your Heavenly Father? If you don’t see any fruit, it’s probably because there is no root or the root hasn’t grown deep yet. No one will ever love you like your Heavenly Father, but you should at least see some of His characteristics flowing through the man you intend to marry.

Along this same line, if you’re attracted to a man who doesn’t show any fruit, you’re not ready to enter a covenant, either, because no woman of God who understands her value in Christ would sign up to be with someone so far from her Father’s heart. Don’t make excuses for him or for yourself.

Seek God about your future spouse. Just today, I was talking to a newlywed who said to me, “God didn’t say no—so I took that as a ‘yes’.” Ask God to let you know if this person is His best for you and be willing to walk away if the answer is “no.”

Finally, know that a real man of God doesn’t want anything less than a real woman of God. If you have been leading him into temptation, cursing him out, and paying his bills, it’s no wonder you are with someone who’s so out of line. This is the blind leading the blind! Come out of darkness. BE the godly person you want to marry. Surrender to Christ and let His light shine in you. It will repel the ones who are not for you and attract one who is.


Faith Simone: Whew! If it hit you, say “Ouch!” and keep moving. I definitely needed to hear ALL of this. Practical, biblical based advice that gives me a clear compass for this thing called dating? Yes, please! Chile, the stories I could tell. Also, I couldn’t help thinking that we need to be what we’re looking for. In other words, we need to have our own houses in order before we go looking to set up house with someone else. Talk to me in the comments below, and let me know I’m not alone!

If this guest post blessed you, don’t hesitate to get more of the same by checking out Michelle’s latest release: Married for Five Minutes: Hope for Living Inside Real-Life Marriages. It’s full of practical advice for married folks, but as you can see from reading this post, it also includes plenty for singles too! Click on the pic, or title for more info. 🙂

 

Married for Five Minutes:
Hope for Living Inside Real-Life Marriages
Shundria Riddick, M.A., LPC & Michelle Stimpson

Release Date: June 28, 2016
Paperback ISBN: 1-943563-05-5
Hardcover ISBN: 1-943563-06-3
Ebook available through online retailers
Publisher: Edifying Reads, an Imprint of MLStimpson Enterprises

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Author Spotlight: ReUnited-A Gift From God

REUNITED A GIFT FROM GOD
Madlyn E. Marshall
Madlyn Marshall is the Founder of G.R.A.C.E. Financial Ministry Inc. G.R.A C.E is an acronym for “God’s Resources Advancing Christian Evangelism” a biblically based financial management and budgeting ministry. Madlyn is also conducts workshops writing all the material used in the workshops as well as during one on one consulting sessions.
Madlyn has also written several short stories and poems. It is in this genre where Madlyn has the opportunity to share the creative side of her writing. Madlyn has a vivid imagination and a unique way of bringing the stories and characters she writes about to life with descriptive images.
The Window of the Heart series is a collection of small fictional stories that explore the depth of God’s love and His capacity to restore that which was lost, albeit relationships, a renewed sense of oneself, or joy that had been buried under the weight of life’s challenges. In these stories, you will laugh, cry, and paused to think about your own challenges and I hope come away with a renewed spirit and a stronger faith.
In the first of the three book series, ReUnited – A Gift from God; the characters struggle with their faith in God, and the pain from their past. Can they truly forgive? Can they trust God and allow Him to heal their brokenness? Tony and Elaine have the opportunity to answer these questions and more because they are thrown together in an unlikely place, on top of a mountain in Alberta, Canada. There is no place for either of them to go, so they are forced to face their fears and their past lives together.

Faith Simone: Love the mysterious sound of the this book! It promises to be emotional. I can think of a few people I wouldn’t want to be trapped on a snowy mountain with, but that’s a story for another day! 

New Release: His Final Deal!!!!

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His Final Deal

by Theresa A. Campbell

Book Blast will run March 1, 2016

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Raymond Brown, popularly known as Smooth Suave, is one of Jamaica’s biggest drugs lords. With eight children by six baby mommas and counting, he’s a player for life. A true baller, he lavishes in his wealth. He’s a shot caller with “soldiers” wheeling and dealing all over Jamaica. It’s Suave’s world, and everyone else just lives in it . . . or so he thinks.

However, his nemesis, King Kong, sees it differently. Rivals since childhood, King Kong is hell-bent on destroying Suave at any cost. As the war over power, drugs, and money intensifies—from Wilton Gardens (Rema) to Arnett Gardens (Jungle)—bodies are dropping like flies, washing the island of paradise in blood.

But it is the murder and kidnapping of two of Suave’s loved ones that bring him to his knees. Being framed for murder, hunted by the cops, pursued by his enemies, betrayed by friends, tormented by a horrid secret, and fighting to protect his family and empire, Suave is nearing his breaking point. Yet, he isn’t going down without a fight.

Voilà! Suave makes a deal to eradicate his enemies—but if it backfires, it could very well cause him his own life. Then God counteroffers Suave’s deal with His own—one that will undoubtedly give Suave the victory he needs but requires him to give up his drug empire and turn his life over to the Lord. With his motto being, “I don’t do God,” will Suave accept God’s deal or take the risk of his own deal?

 

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“Today, I want to talk to you about redemption,” Bishop Hudson began. “Ephesians 1:7 says, ‘In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace.’ Amen. Redemption is possible through the blood of Jesus! Hello, somebody? I said, you can be delivered from the bondage of sin and find peace with God. Am I speaking to somebody?”

“Amen, Pastor,” a member shouted from the front.

“You better speak to me, Bishop,” a young lady in the choir yelled.

Bishop Hudson paused, took off his jacket, and handed it to his assistant. He grabbed the microphone out of the stand and paced the pulpit. “We all are in need of redemption. You know why? Because we all have sinned and have fallen short of the glory of God.”

Hmmm, interesting, Suave thought. Even Christians need redemption, too.

As if he read Suave’s mind, Bishop Hudson remarked, “So you can act like you were born holy, pure, and righteous all you want, but that’s not the case. We were able to become a child of God because Jesus paid the price for our sins on the cross. His death was in exchange of our life.”

“Praise the Lord,” “Thank you, Jesus,” and “Hallelujah” rang throughout the church.

“Do you want to be free from the burden of guilt?” Bishop Hudson asked, looking out at the congregation.

Suave shifted in his seat, wondering why the bishop was looking at him.

“Do you want to be free from curses and bondage?” Bishop Hudson stepped down from the pulpit into the aisle. “God already purchased our freedom,” he said, his eyes wandering from one face to the other as he moved closer to the back.

He better stop picking on me, or else I’m stepping. With his arms folded and face screwed up like a dried apple, Suave defiantly stared at the bishop as he seemed to get closer. I’m no punk.

“I said, you can go from being a sinner to a saint if you accept God’s gift of eternal life.” Bishop Hudson was now at Suave’s bench where he paused.

Suave glanced at the bishop through the corner of his eyes, his head held straight. He didn’t acknowledge the bishop, and for his own sake, Suave was hoping the bishop wouldn’t acknowledge him.

“I’m glad to see you this morning, my brother.” Bishop Hudson looked down at Suave, who still wasn’t looking at him.

All eyes in the church turned toward the back where Suave sat. Alwayne and Annette held hands and nervously looked on. Bishop Hudson was known to prophesize to his members, revealing things that no one else knew but God. He would also predict certain happenings that always came true. This usually made some members excited about receiving a blessing, and others nervous when they hadn’t been walking on the “right” side.

“God is going to give you a second chance.” Bishop Hudson rested his hand on Suave’s shoulder. “Those demons that are haunting you are leading you down a narrow road.”

Suave’s heart began to gallop in his chest. He wanted to brush off the preacher’s hand, but he felt compelled to hear what the man had to say.

“Your mind gets so mixed up at times that you find it hard to differentiate between the real thing and your imagination. But God says to tell you that He is going to give you the victory.”

Some people were now standing on their feet clapping, some praying, and others speaking in tongues.

“Deliver him, Lord,” an elderly man shouted.

“Set your son free, Father Jesus,” screamed another member.

“God is going to right the wrong that was done to you, so you can be free to serve Him and His people.” Tears filled Bishop Hudson’s eyes as he leaned over to Suave, his face only inches away from Suave’s.

On a will of its own, Suave’s neck turned, and he locked eyes with the bishop. Suave’s tears betrayed him and seeped down his face.

About the Author

 

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Theresa A. Campbell is the author of the captivating novels, “Are You There, God?” and “God Has Spoken.” She was born and raised in Jamaica West Indies. She received her bachelor’s degree in business administration from Baruch College, and a master’s degree in business administration from Fairleigh Dickinson University.

Theresa has had a deep passion for reading since she was a child. It is her desire to inspire readers by writing stories from the heart to uplift their faith in God

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Y’all got scared in the beginning of reading that description, huh? Was probably like, King Kong? Bodies dropping like flies? What in the world is Faith helping to promote? No worries, edgy Christian Fiction is what it’s all about these days. As long as redemption is featured, I’m down for the get down. What about you?

New Release!!!! He Changed My Name

I can’t believe it’s been two years since I first discovered my friend Unoma Nwankwor! Time really does fly. While time has been flying, she’s been busy! The girl can write and she stays publishing new, first-rate books. Unoma proudly proclaims that she fuses faith, romance and African spice. Her latest novella, He Changed My Name, is no exception. Deets below!

HCMN (RGB) (2)Book Title: He Changed My Name

Publisher: KevStel Group February 12, 2016

ASIN: B01B786XFE

Genre: Christian Fiction Romance

Author: Unoma Nwankwor

About the Book: Eager to escape the hypocrisy of the church and build her singing career, pop sensation, Ayanti “Yanni” Effiong enters and wins The Next World Star. Apart from fulfilling her dream, her move to America offers the perfect opportunity to help young female immigrants. A cause she pursues with a passion until fame takes over. Fifteen years later, broke, dumped and fresh out of jail, she begins to regret the lifestyle and name she created for herself.

Mensah Afortey is on the brink of losing the church he put his heart and soul into for the past seven years. This years’ Valentine Day gala is his last attempt to raise money for the church. Everything is set but they need a big name to pull in donations. Just as he is about to give up, in walks “Yanni.” When he agreed for Ayanti to serve community service under his church he didn’t know she was the same person as the embattled star.

While she pays her debt to society, the last thing she wants to do is perform on a day that left a bitter taste in her mouth. But there is no denying the instant attraction between them. Before he wins her heart, Mensah must win her soul. Over time and in fellowship with the church, Ayanti comes to realize that despite what man calls her, God has the ability to change her name.

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The shrill ring of her phone brought her back to the present. She sat up against the headboard. Her heartbeat accelerated as she answered the phone. It was Debby.

“Please give me good news.”

“Hey, chica,” Debby responded. “I hope you’re doing better.”

Earlier, Ayanti had a breakdown. She had screamed and bawled her eyes out, wishing she was back in Calabar, the capital city of her home, Cross Rivers in Nigeria. It seemed like a lifetime ago she won that competition and left the country.

“Yes, I’m fine, but tell me I can be better.”

“Okay, here’s the deal. Charity for Homes had filled up with court ordered volunteers until next month…”

“I can’t wait that long!”

“Lemme finish, girlie. We were able to get you to volunteer with them not as an individual, but under a church group.”

“A church!” Ayanti wiped her hands across her face. She hadn’t been in one of those in years. Did Debby have any idea the kind of judgment that went on in that place? She’d take her chances with the mean police officer until next month.

“Hear me out. The church volunteers with Homes for Charity as a non-sponsor group. You can be part of those volunteers and when they are not volunteering, you can still make up some hours by working in the church. That way, you can get this thing over with faster. Now tell me that doesn’t beat picking up trash in the streets,” Debby finished.

“But those people would have known what I did. Why I’m there…”

“And? Which one of them there hasn’t done anything bad?” Debby asked. “Girl, think about it. Besides, you have nothing else to lose at this point.”

“I guess you’re right.” Ayanti contemplated the whole arrangement.

“Of course I am.” A beat of silence passed between them. “Now get some rest and I’ll see you tomorrow. Think about it and let me know what you want to do. You have until the end of the week.”

“What’s the name of the church?”

“Ummm…hold on.”  The shuffling noise of paper could be heard in the background. “It’s called Calvary Is the Way. It’s on Auburn.”

Ayanti remained silent for a few minutes. After a while they disconnected. Ayanti switched off the television and turned to her side. Calvary Is the Way? She rolled her eyes. These new age churches and their names. What ever happened to churches with sensible names? Like Mount something…

© 2016 Unoma Nwankwor

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 unomskylo1aAbout the Author: Born in Akron, Ohio to Nigerian parents, Unoma Nwankwor spent her childhood and early adulthood years in Port-Harcourt, Nigeria. She possesses a Bachelor’s degree in Finance and a Master’s degree in Global Management. Her publishing credits include An Unexpected Blessing (2013), The Christmas Ultimatum (2013), When You Let Go (May, 2014), A Scoop of Love (Jan, 2015) and Anchored By Love (Dec 2015). Her work has appeared in Africa Book Club, USA Today HEA blog and The Kenyan E-zine; Wamathai.  Her stories are described as a fusion of faith, romance and African spice. Unoma is also the co-owner of KevStel Group LLC and resides in Atlanta Georgia with her husband and two children.

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Website: http://www.unwankwor.com

Blog: http://www.unomanwankwor.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/unwankworauthor

Twitter:  www.twitter.com/unwankwor

Mmmhhh, romance, criminal activity and Jesus? Sounds like my kind of story! What do you think?

Twitter Book Chat Round-Up with B. Swangin Webster

Hi Ya’ll! You know I’ve been a bit under the weather for the last few weeks and have not been here as much. However, I wanted to take part in B. Swangin Webster’s blog tour. Her book sounded like something I needed to read. As you can imagine, I haven’t quite finished the book but the tour is almost done…today’s the last day!

Therefore, I decided I would take part by sharing with you the Twitter Chat B. Swangin Webster (@BSwanginWeber) and @NoteBkBlogairy hosted this past SuperBowl weekend. (Yeah, I know — ambitious [read: cray-cray] ladies!)

P.S. Don’t forget to check out the giveaway at the bottom of this page.

Before we get started, here’s a brief synopsis of B. Swangin Webster’s book, Let Me Just Say This:

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Cheryl Goldman is a stay-at-home mother of two: a boy, and a girl. Her husband, Kevin, is a successful businessman who owns his own marketing firm. From the outside, all looks perfect. Too perfect, perhaps. When we scratch the surface, we find Cheryl wearing too much makeup on some days and rather overlarge shades that make her look every bit the fierce diva. Yet, she’s not.

Cheryl allows the unthinkable to happen more and more in her life. Her children watch her. Her BFF watches her. Her parents watch her. Yet, no one steps in…not even Cheryl speaks up for herself. Her daughter is disgusted. Her son is angry at both of his parents. Her father knows Cheryl’s not trying to make any waves. Cheryl’s mother? Thinks the world rises and sets on Kevin.

Will Cheryl wake up and realize she shouldn’t be the object of abuse because someone else is having a rough go of it? Will her children forgive her? Or, simply walk away from it all?

Go behind the scenes of this upper middle-class African-American successful family and see how the foundation of things was set and how it all slowly unraveled.

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Twitter Chat Round-Up from Saturday, February 6, 2016

NoteBook Blogairy (NB) Question: Cheryl’s sister was none too gentle. Why is that?

B. Swangin Webster (BSW) Answer: Cheryl’s sister was jealous of Cheryl because she felt they loved Cheryl more.

Kenya (KY) Answer: I didn’t catch that either. Those family relationships were nuts, in general.

NB response to KY: I KNOW! The relationship with the son was so intense. I almost felt as if blows were going to come from him next.

KY response to NB: Cheryl was really trying to keep the kids’ feelings about everything in check. They probably didn’t know how to feel!

NB response to KY: Yes, she wanted them to be good Christians and overlook what was happening in their own home. So sad for them!

NB Statement to BSW: Loved the way you show the tension in Cheryl’s relationship with her children.

BSW response to NB: The son knew all along and until the time comes and the son has a ‘treat’ in store for his dear old dad.

KY response to BSW: I felt that was so true to life. My brothers would have gone in with a bat! But, we didn’t grow up with it (domestic violence).

BSW response to KY: Yes, it’s funny that I wanted to beat him with a bat as well but you feel the emotion.

NB response to BSW & KY: Readers feel the full range of emotions.

KY response to BSW: Well I think the emotion is an important part of the book. Which made the love scenes with Kevin hard.

BSW response to KY: She [Cheryl] knew that her marriage was not based on love. #infatuation

NB response to BSW: Hmm…I didn’t see that. It read to me like she knew he was trouble but she stayed hoping it would get better. Then, stayed for the kids.

KY response to NB: Me, too. She had clues early on but was being defiant and got stuck.

BSW response to KY: And for Kevin…he gets what’s coming to him…by someone HE loves.

KY response to BSW: Awww…that’s going to be sad, too. But, I felt sorry for Mister at the end of The Color Purple…

Dianne (Dii) statement to BSW: (Pops in; new to chat.) I was proud to be a part of your tour!

BSW to Dii: Make sure to see just how the secretary pays him back #Book2

Dii to BSW: LOVE paybacks!

BSW to group: Yep! If Cheryl could have had that…we would be cheering her.

NB to group: Backbone? Yep. Cheryl needs to buy one. Put it on layaway…

KY to group [spoiler alert!]: I guess she can use Matthew’s instead.

BSW to group: Thanks @NoteBkBlogairy for hosting this #NBbookchat today.

NB to BSW: You are quite welcome! I’ve learned so much more. THANK YOU!

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Special thanks goes to Dianne (@diibylo), Kenya (@BookedUpBoss) and to Intrigue Publishing (@IntriguePub) — the publishers of Let Me Just Say This.

Author Bio

B Swangin Webster_New Look_Jan 30 2016B. Swangin Webster is the mother of five grown children and the “Nina” of nine grandchildren. She continues to write because if she didn’t, she believes she would stop breathing. Live Life with passion is hermotto. This is something she does every day.

She has recently embarked on an additional career as a radio talk show host on WLVS Radio: Radio You Can Watch. She has become one of their leading hostesses.

When B. Swangin Webster isn’t writing, you can find her reading one of her 300+ novels. Or, taking cooking classes. When she isn’t doing either of the above, you will find her at grandchildren’s football games, or watching her favorite football team: The Dallas Cowboys.

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Author Spotlight: Patty Rice!!!! #Authors #ChristianFiction #Books

What’s your name or pen name?
Patty Rice
What are your genres?
I’ve written two chicklit bestsellers and I just released a Christian novel.
What have you written? 
My books are “Somethin’ Extra,” “Reinventing the Woman,” and the new book, “He Restores My Soul”
When did you begin your writing career?
I’ve been writing from childhood, but I took it seriously when I was about 25
Are you a full-time or part-time writer? How do you make time to write?
I am a part-time writer. I spend the latter half of my day creating on my laptop.  I believe you make time for anything you want to do; since writing is like breathing to me, I make it a top priority and care out time for my work each day.
What’s your writing process?
I write every day. My most productive creative time is around 4:30 or 5 am.  I work for three hours st that time of day where the words and ideas just flow. I think I’m just more clear and fresh at that time.  Then in the afternoon, I put in another three to four hours.  Hey. That’s about six or seven hours. I guess I do write full-time!
Do you keep a journal? If so, for how long? Do you find it helpful for your professional writing?
I kept a journal in the early days just to help me organize my thoughts and ideas.  But now, I have a goove where a character starts talking in my head and then I build from there. I always know the end of my stories from the beginning and somehow I’m able to keep all the details straight because I become pretty engrossed in their fictional lives.
What’s your inspiration?
I’m an observer and a people watcher, like at the grocery store and subway or if I’m seated by the window of a restaurant, I LOVE watching people walk by and wondering what their story is, based on how they’re dressed or what they are doing in that moment. I also listen to things people say and love the cadence, the rhythm of conversations. The new book, “He Restores My Soul” came from a conversation some of my friends were having about how they felt about black men dating and marrying white women. That moment was so interesting because I was meeting a black colleague who was picking up tix from me to an event. He is very handsome and walked in with his white wife, and the four women with me were so disappointed. I knew I had to recapture that moment in time and present it in my work, really look at why that issue might exist. It was so much fun to write about!
What kind of legacy do you expect your writing to leave?
I want a body of work that makes my family proud, but most importantly, I want God to be pleased. Words have a profound impact and it is a vital responsibility to have a platform. I want people to be encouraged, edified, and entertained.
What advice would you give to aspiring writers?
Start journaling if you aren’t already and write every day. Stick with one story and be a finisher. Too many people start and stop projects and never get anything done. Read a lot of books by the best writers and study their techniques, and take a grammar class every few years, as well as participate in writing classes, workshops, and join a writing group. These are things that most serious writers do.
What’s on your bookshelf or in your e-reader library?
I read a lot of Christian Fiction and Romance.  I just finished Vanessa Miller’s Praise Song series and one of the best romance novels I’ve read in a long time is, “Perfect” by Delaney Diamond.  I also read a lot of biographies and autobiographies.  I just read since April Nile Rogers, Toni Braxton, Norman Lear, Penny Marshall and Garry Marshall. All awesome reads!
What are you currently working on?
I have two things going.   I’m actually developing a half-hour scripted show with a friend as well as working on the second book in my Living Water series.  It’s called “Love and Reverence.”  I thought it would be interesting and helpful to marriages on the brink out here if I looked at how a failing Christian marriage can be restored after the trust is broken and both sides have caused careless pain. The characters will be implementing some of the tools God taught me as He restored my own marriage.  I’m big on the message of restoration.
He restores my soulLatest release and book blurb?
When a single selfish act destroys a family…
Former Assistant Pastor Martin Fisher abandons his family for his much younger, white pregnant girlfriend and everything goes haywire. His frigid wife, Justina puts on a good face in public, but privately she copes with anxiety pills and struggles between finding a new identity and giving up on life completely. Their daughter, Zina comes face-to-face with a crippling, long-buried secret just as she’s about to take the biggest risk of her career. Meanwhile, the Fisher’s son, Ryan decides he must bring stability by starting a family with his wife, Sierra, only to discover that her dark past just might railroad his best-laid plans.
…Only God can pick up the pieces
With the Fisher family in ruins, will they ever be able to let go of their pride and allow God to bring wholeness? Or will they continue to suffer the relentless consequences of bitterness and unforgiveness?
The twists and turns will leave you breathless! 
 
Tell us about your main character? What actress or actor would you cast to play him or her in a movie about your book?
Zina Fisher is a smart, funny, and ambitious beauty with absolutely no filter. She’s very high strung, and because she grew up sheltered by her family, she thinks she can have it her way every day.
Someone sassy would have to play her who can fuse their natural fire into the character, like Zoe Saldana.  If we pushed slightly older, I would say Gabby Union.
How  can we purchase your work?
http://www.amazon.com/ (print and kindle)
How can we stay in touch with you?
On Facebook: Patty Rice
Twitter: PattyRice1
Instagram: PattyRiceWriter
I love her advice for aspiring writers! Just do it, and study the greats. You can’t go wrong by following that wisdom. Feel free to ask Patty additional questions in the comments below!

Are You Ready?

 You ever come across someone with a sweet spirit? You know, those people who seem naturally and effortlessly warm and kind? That’s the impression I get from today’s guest blogger Corine Marie! First, she’s going to share some inspiration geared towards helping you pursue your passion with abandon. Then, she’s going to share a little about her debut novel A Small Piece of Her Heart.


ARE YOU READY?

 
Are you ready? I wasn’t! Sweat filled my palms and coated my forehead. Butterflies danced in my stomach, leaving me to feel weak. That’s how I felt at my first keynote speaking engagement. But I did it despite my nervousness and succeeded.
 
When I knew I wanted to write my first book, the fear of failure was so strong that I didn’t tell anyone for months that I was writing. I didn’t feel intelligent enough to call myself an author. Eventually I gave myself a pep talk and now I proclaim it from the roof tops and can’t wait for people to read my book. 
 
So, are YOU ready? You have aspirations. It may be something you’ve dreamed of your entire life or suddenly, it came to you in a dream. Are you ready to pursue those aspirations? You may not feel ready but that’s perfect because no one is ever really “ready” to do anything. Being “ready” almost doesn’t exist. Pushing through those moments of uncertainty is when one discovers their power within and their strengths. So don’t be paralyzed by fear. Don’t allow yourself to focus on what might go wrong, instead, focus on what could go right and take some risks. One of my favorite quotes is, “Success never happens from comfort zones.” Sometimes what you’re most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free. If you don’t ever take the risk, you’ll never find out how great it could have been. 
 
Ask yourself these questions:
  • 1. What will my life look like in a year if I continue to do nothing?
  • 2. How can my life potentially change for the better if I do take the risk?
  • 3. Will I be happy with my life in the next five years if I continue on this same path?

If you wait until you’re “ready” you’ll be waiting a very long time, possibly the rest of your life. Be bold, take risks and fear nothing except regret.


a small piece

 

Aubrey Blake does not live her life all-in with anything. She learned from her unfortunate upbringing that everyone has a monstrous side lurking behind a well-polished facade. As a result, she armors her heart with a Teflon shell.

 

Aubrey’s only focus is becoming a thriving individual. She is progressing just fine until former college football superstar, Daniel Sane transfers to her college.  Their connection is immediate but when Aubrey discovers that Daniel has a concealed reason as to why he no longer plays football, her skepticism of people resurfaces and she is reluctant to move forward. Though they become flirtatious friends, Daniel’s secret and Aubrey’s vaulted heart has them on a constant roller coaster ride of emotion.​

Click HERE to Check out A Small Piece of Her Heart!


Author photo1Bio: Corine Marie Tindell was born in Canton, Ohio. She attended the University of Akron in Akron, Ohio where she earned a Bachelors degree in Interpersonal Communications.
Shortly after graduating from college, she started her first business, CorineMarie.com, an online store where she sold handmade fashion designs. The business evolved when she began blogging alongside her husband, Lucas, about getting dressed up and enjoying a weekly date night. That’s when she discovered her passion for writing about love and relationships.
Today, Corine and Lucas – having only been married six years – are blessed and privileged to share their relationship with others through facilitating marriage counseling, teaching healthy relationship courses, and monthly blogging.


Faith Simone says: That last line, though? “Be bold, take risks and fear nothing except regret.” Chile’, somebody needs to put that on a Hallmark card because that sentence is everything! I think I found one of my new mantras for 2016. 🙂
When’s the last time you did something you were afraid to do? How did you feel afterwards? What advice would you give someone who’s striving to live life without regrets? Do you have any questions about A Small Piece of Her Heart? How did you/do you keep past hurt from interfering with your relationships?