Confessions of Faith: Filtering This Life

When I think of the word filter, I think of keeping harmful substances out of something. People request filtered water in an attempt to avoid pollutants. Some people drink filtered coffee claiming its superior taste. There’s been a huge surge in the amount of people choosing to filter their diets (gluten-free,vegan, Paleo, clean eating) for a variety of reasons.  But what about taking time to filter your life?

How often do we allow negativity into our lives without bothering to filter it? There are numerous outlets telling us that we need more; more education, a higher paying job, a better relationship, a bigger home, an upgraded phone. We get messages every day telling us that we should have a fitter body, whiter teeth, shinier hair, plumper lips. In a society that’s inundated with outside forces telling us in subtle and blatant ways that we’re not good enough right now, at this moment, with all that we have and all that we are, I choose to guard my filter.

I choose to consciously counteract the repetitive messages of greed and comparison constantly thrown at me by the media. Sometime this means disconnecting from social media, turning off the television and the radio, and avoiding conversations with negative people. This is an effective, though often short-lived, way to give my spirit time to retreat and re-group. Other times retreating is not an option. That’s when I have to challenge those messages by facing them head on. I have to dissect the advertisement or negative comment until I get to the root of its intent and forcefully pluck it out. I have to confront the bully, using the power of my unique voice to speak out. In those moments my filter is fully functioning.

I set a guard over my life, not allowing anyone to make me feel like I’m not enough. Any evolution I allow is either going to be initiated by me at the prompting of my own conscience, or by my heavenly Father at the gentle urging of the holy spirit. Who I am, who I choose to become and what I choose to own will not be dictated by others. I’m filtering this life because the purity of my soul is more than worth the effort.

Above all else, guard your heart,
    for everything you do flows from it.  

Proverbs 4:23 NIV



Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the amount of negativity in our culture? How do you counteract it? Do you make it a habit to regularly disconnect from the outside world? What benefits have you gained from doing so? I’d love to discuss this further in the comments below!


13 thoughts on “Confessions of Faith: Filtering This Life

  1. I have to disconnect sometimes because otherwise I would be too distracted. I stopped visiting certain entertainment blogs because they were so mean-spirited and most of the time, I won’t read the comments because they’re just so hateful. I don’t like taking all that negative energy in. Disconnecting also helps me to focus on my never-ending to do list!


    • I’ll disconnect in a minute Quanie, with no apologies. When I used to live alone, every 4-5 months I would tell my close friends and family to not be alarmed if they didn’t hear from me over the course of a weekend. I called it my sabbatical and I would turn off my phone and the TV, then spend the whole weekend reading, listening to music, praying, daydreaming or whatever. No human contact whatsoever. Wierd, but effective.

      And I know what you mean about those entertainment blogs. They can be brutal. I’ll watch some ratchet reality T.V. when I’m in the mood, but I have no desire to run celebs down on the internet!


  2. I have a post about this, too. The Irony of the Sad Giraffe.
    I think it’s important to remember gratitude for what’s real. What health we do have is real. Having enough food to fuel our bodies is real. Having an imperfectly decorated home to live in is real. Having another day with friends and family to love is real. The need to perfect everything, especially ourselves, is not a real need, but a way for us to feel poorly and consume more.
    I watch television and look at catalogs knowing it’s all staged to be ideal. I’m not staged. I’m not ideal. I’m real, and so is everyone else, despite their pretense.


  3. “I choose to consciously counteract the constant messages of greed and comparison constantly thrown at me by the media” is a powerful manifesto that more people should swear to. We can’t ignore media because ignorance is not bliss, but we can face it with careful criticism. The online world is a busy, exhausting place for me and I get burnt out very easily, mainly because of the negativity and the general shouting from rooftops. I try not to let myself get to the panic point where I just want to unplug for good, and just take a week or a few days off here and there. I have to fight the feeling that I’m missing out on something — because I always catch up eventually, and missing out on that constant negative noise does me soooo much good. I feel my shoulders relax just thinking about it! 😉


    • I can totally relate to that feeling of not wanting to miss something, and wanting to stay current. It was especially hard for me to find balance when I first started blogging. Suddenly there were so many people who’s opinions, advice and life occurrences I wanted to stay abreast of. It was overwhelming! Then I remembered the beauty of the internet: it’s always there. So I choose to fully engage a few days a week, or whenever I have some down time. No stress or worries.

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  4. Hi Faith, you nailed it with the weekend sabbatical. i can totally relate. Pre-children I would jump on a bus and go to wherever I could away from the hustle and bustle of the City. i usually went somewhere with an oceanview. Water calms me. Disconnecting from this reality is of supreme importance so we can bring our dreams intofruition. Even if you don’t pull fully away there are ways to bring that peaceful magic back into yoour life. One way is reading Pam Grout’s E2 &/or E3. They share “experiments” that require you to re-focus inwards no matter where you are.

    Ladies, thank you all for your comments. you’ve given me additional food for thought.


    • You’re right, there’s just something about water that draws you in. I lived in Southern California most of my life and one of my favorite things to do year round was to go to the beach. No matter how I was feeling, the ocean took away my stress, anxiety or what have you. It also stimulated my creativity. I wrote some of my favorite pieces sitting at the edge of the pacific. It’s one of the things I miss most about California. I’ll have to check out those Pam Grout books. They sound super interesting!

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  5. Hi Faith-

    I try to stay away from negativity as much as possible although sometimes there is no choice. Your post was a great reminder for me to stay positive, which is exactly what I needed today. Thanks, Faith.
    Feb. 13 is the BIG day. All the best. I look forward to reading your book! 🙂


    • I’m glad I could help make you day better Carol! Keep that filter in place. 🙂
      Yep, Friday is the big day! I guess I should feel some kind of way about choosing Friday the 13th as my pub day, but hey I’m taking a chance lol. Thank s for your support!

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