Who Are You? What Do You Want to Do? Are You Ready?

Who are you? What do you want to do? Are you ready? Three simple questions that I’ve spent the last few days pondering. On the death valleysurface they seem simple enough, but upon closer inspection I’ve begun to see that the questions are as deep and diverse as all of the potential answers. Before I expose you to a glimpse into my complex and often times unstable psyche, I’ll tell you what brought on this journey into self-reflection.

I’m currently reading Yesterday, I Cried by Iyanla Vanzant for at least the third time. This book is over 10 years old, yet the life lessons it offers hold true no matter how much time has passed. It’s the story of how Iyanla overcame traumatic childhood events and poor choices as a young adult, then went on to become a wildly successful self-help guru. Yes, this is a story that has been done before. What I appreciate is that Iyanla tells her truth with vulnerability and humor. It’s obvious that the ultimate goal of the book is to offer sage wisdom in the hopes of changing the reader’s perspective for the better.

Which leads back to those three little questions. All of them are asked of Iyanla in the first chapter.

Who are you?

Seems simple enough, right? My first instinct was to spout off a bunch of titles: daughter, sister, friend, writer, entrepreneur, employee. Then I went into descriptive elements: woman, African-American, Christian, thick’ums.  Sure they’re all important yet, who am I when everything else fades away? I’m a sensitive nurturer who knows that love is all that truly matters. My motivation for being and my reason for living is to love the way God loves.

What do you want to do?

Again, my first instinct was to spout off a long list of things I want to do. Travel the world, raise a family, write a gazillion phenomenal books. All of those goals are valid. When I allowed myself to go deeper I discovered that I want to know and be fully known. People and their behaviors fascinate me. My own behavior fascinates me. I want to encourage and motivate people to reach their goTreesals and walk in the fullness of love. I want to do the same for myself.

Are you ready? 

This was the toughest question of all. Being delusional is easy. Being completely honest with yourself is hard work. It’s embarrassing to admit that in many ways I’m not ready to do all of the things I want to do. I have a lot of emotional baggage to work through, and practical steps to take, before I can say without hesitation that I’m ready to do all that I want to do in a way that is true to who I am.

My point in writing this isn’t just to air my own issues. Although, I did already mention that I find myself utterly fascinating. All jokes aside, I do have the sincere hope that you’ll take a few moments (or days, or weeks, or months) and think about these three questions. Discover your own answers. Then use that knowledge to enrich your life as well as the lives of those around you.

Anyone else on the road to self discovery? I’m interested in hearing about your journey in the comments below!

Photo credit: familymwr / Foter / Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic (CC BY 2.0)

Photo credit: familymwr / Foter / Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic (CC BY 2.0)


2 thoughts on “Who Are You? What Do You Want to Do? Are You Ready?

    • Thanks Carol, I’ve always enjoyed helping people. Since I tend to be a little bossy at times, I’ve learned to encourage people rather than try to tell them what to do. It works out so much better that way 😉


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